When something makes me uncomfortable in my spirit, I always seek God as to why especially, when I see something that seems to want to become a pattern, or a reoccurring situation in my life and the lives of others.
I, along with several other leaders, who have shared that they are dealing with this same situation, have had some instances where other persons inbox, text, or call us, and because we didn’t jump, they will either say or do something to try to get us to answer them, almost demanding that we give them a response.
The Spirit of The Lord spoke this morning to me and said, this is a form of JEZEBEL CONTROL. He said they trying to control your time and actions. He said watch how they say different things as accusations, so that you will respond to them. They will make it seem as if they have been hurt by you not immediately responding to them.
I have had leaders say that those they cover, tell them they are going to leave, because they not getting the attention they think they deserve. It’s a witchcraft operation of manipulation and control.
Leaders, we must not allow people to try and overtake us through spiritual emotionalism or deceitful tactics of intimidation control. People will try to make you feel like you owe them your undivided attention, when it’s not a spiritual crisis or emergency.
Myself personally, I don’t like, will not tolerate, and will refuse to allow anyone to handle me in a spirit of manipulation intimidation that seems like witchcraft or Jezebel. Leaders are not there to become your bosom buddy. This disrespect usually happens when we allow a person to think that they have liberties with us.
This is why we need boundaries set with those whom we are covering as a leader. Allowing them too much access, causes them to step over lines that should not have been crossed. Allowing them to just call you everyday throughout the day, or texting you to find out what you doing, or who you with all the time, makes them assume that they can be included in every area of your life.
I’m also seeing another problem that is occurring with leaders and that is in being a financial support to the people. There is a line that needs to be drawn even in that area, because you have people who will just assume that you are to take care of them, and they will attempt to discredit or attack you the first time you tell them that you can no longer be there person of support.
You are paying their bills because they say they don’t have money, but they have new weave fingernails and feet done, new outfits, and are going out to eat three or four times a week. And because they have children, they play on your emotions about the children to keep you supplying the needs for their household while they continue to mishandle the resources they have.
Hello! The food stamps are for your children to eat, not for you to sell so you can keep up a look. Necessities come first: a roof over your head, lights, water, food, should be your priorities, not a two hundred dollar hairdo.
As leaders, we can’t become god to people. We have to teach them to be good stewards and what’s important to their survival.
I have had people threaten to scandalized my name if I didn’t pour finances into them, but they soon found out that I didn’t care. People talking about me has never stop me from doing anything, so it sure won’t make me do anything. I tell them, “Join the club,” as they’ve been doing that since I was a child. More now, that I’m on a mission for God.
Leaders, stop being afraid to tell people NO!
The Lord spoke to me one time and told me, if you stop being their god, perhaps they will come to their God. We are not helping people if we don’t teach them responsibility. All they are going to do is leave you and go to another leader to try and use their controlling manipulating intimidating tactics on someone else!
NOTE: There is no need for anyone to inbox me, or any other leader, about this article unless it’s to apologized, because you realize this is what you have been doing to your leader and you feel convicted about your actions. Because if you get an attitude or have to ask is it you, perhaps because you know you are the offending party.
If this is not your shoes, then don’t try to put them on. I’m praying concerning motives attitudes and hearts. This is one season when those in leadership are not entertaining demonic tactics, neither are they putting up with foolishness! It’s time to make a sure righteous stand!
~ Apostle Barbara R. Thomas
|Apostle Barbara R. Thomas is founder of I Come to Heal Ministries, A Woman’s touch Ministry, The Next Dimension Global Outreach Ministries and Spoken Word School of Ministry and she is on a mission traveling the world proclaiming the Gospel for soul to be won to the Kingdom of God. She has a mandate on her life to help brings others to their divine purpose.|