Everywhere we turn, we are bombarded with people that deem their way of life is the new normal. When Caitlyn Jenner, aka Bruce, rewrote his identity to become a woman, Bruce made the statement that “Caitlyn” and the emergence of life on his terms was the new normal. The world claims that we should be tolerant of this sort of confusion and even embrace it. I disagree. Why should someone else’s brokenness become the standard for others? That’s insanity.
This isn’t an article about transgender individuals. I’m simply making a point, and that illustration seems to hit it head on pretty clearly. The world would like you to accept that brokenness and confusion are the new normal. They’re not. Don’t accept that lie! Just because the world embraces sin, brokenness and disillusionment to God’s order at an alarming manner, doesn’t mean you have to. Above all, don’t let the enemy re-write your identity! That is all just an illusion but it will never truly lead to freedom and a healed individual if the root issues are not dealt with in love and truth. Love and truth reside in God’s statement of our identity, not man’s, and certainly not the devil’s lie.
This brings me to a point. Painful disappointments in people who should be able to be trusted can make us distrustful of others. When we feel betrayed, rejected or abandoned by others, it breaks the foundation of trust, creating long term emotional and relational dysfunction.
The enemy takes advantage of these events that cause us pain and somehow twists truth all around. Don’t let someone else’s brokenness, their inability to communicate, or show love and faithfulness in that relationship in a healthy manner get turned around to become your standard for acceptance, self worth and determining YOUR value.
How does that happen? Liar liar pants on fire. It only comes from the one who intends to deceive you and trick you into wearing his yoke so that he can oppress and control you. With some people, the lie is going to result in an identity crisis that shows up in gender identity issues. With others, it may show up in performance or other things.
Either way, Satan lies and tells you that because you felt rejected by someone you trusted with your heart, you have to own it. Somehow the fault lies with you. The original you wasn’t good enough. You have to try harder to prove you are worthy of acceptance. You have to work to prove that you aren’t a failure or defective. You have to re-write your identity, what you do, and who you are, so that you can somehow try to see yourself through the faulty lens of what it means to be approved and accepted. It’s vague. It’s hard to define, and the person striving towards performance driven behavior can’t quite seem to figure out what the unattainable standard is, in order to feel worthy ‘enough.’
It’s that mouse chasing the cheese on the wheel of life that never seems to catch the prize. It becomes the lie that drives you internally.
That lie is what causes you to wear the yoke of the enemy. That lie is why you have no rest
in your soul. That lie is what makes you dissatisfied, frustrated, suspicious of other people’s motives and overly sensitive to everything around you. That lie is the stronghold the enemy is protecting, and he’s sitting in the driver’s seat of your thoughts and emotions like a madman. It’s like the enemy is the crazy, out-of-control chariot driver, whipping the horses to drive you faster, work harder to perform and prove yourself. It’s called selfish ambition and it will drive you mad. Literally. Internal driving with no relief makes a person resentful, short-tempered, frustrated and so,so tired.
Sometimes you have to walk through some things in order to realize that all along you were trying to prove something to yourself. It’s that sense of competing with yourself and maybe others, too, that makes you realize just how ridiculous it’s all been. For what? When you give yourself over to competition, when does it all end? What standard can be met that is ‘high enough’ to warrant satisfaction? This too is vanity to which there is no end.
Get rid of your short fuse. Rid yourself of competition, because truth be told, at the root of all competition is jealousy. Jealousy is a fear based emotion out of fearing that you’re not good enough. Where did THAT come from? Hell. Find peace for your soul. Recognize the lie and throw the lunatic chariot driver out on his ear! Take back the reins and bring those out of control horses to a stop. Take the yokes of guilt, self condemnation, ego, pride and ambition OFF. Those lies are simply an illusion. You ARE accepted. You ARE loved.
You do have value, even if those who you trusted to see it, nurture it, and love you unconditionally can’t recognize it. The fault lies in their own brokenness and trust issues, but they don’t have to become yours. THROW OFF THE YOKE OF THE ENEMY AND BE FREE!
I thank You that I am accepted in Christ and no one can take that away from me. Your word is full of truth. I cannot trust the enemy to tell me the truth. I reject the lies that I am rejected, defective or need to prove myself.
I break every agreement I have made knowingly or unknowingly with the father of lies and I renounce every spirit of rejection, abandonment, fear and insecurity. I reject the spirit of inferiority.
I command them to go back to the pit of hell where they belong, and I command the yoke of the enemy to be broken now in the name and authority of Jesus Christ.
Thank you Holy Spirit for showing me the truth so that I can walk in freedom. You give my soul rest. In Jesus name, Amen.
~ Laura Gagnon
Laura Gagnon is a woman who has been blessed with the gift of understanding God’s restorative work through her own personal experience. Through her insights and revelation, God has led her to influence many individuals into a restored relationship with Jesus Christ. She is a woman who stands on the promises of God, encouraging others in an elevated expectation of the miraculous and declares the gift of His life. Laura is the author of Healing the Heart of a Woman and writes for her blog, Beyond the Barriers.