Isn’t it just so much better to lovingly say “no” to things that you just cannot be a part of?
Doing this doesn’t make it easy, but you are being truthful. Boundaries are necessary in every relationship. They tell us what our responsibility is and is not.
Without boundaries, damages are sure to occur. When we set appropriate boundaries and communicate them thoughtfully, we are actually showing love towards others.
We actually are not walking in love when we allow others to treat us any way they want. Instead, we are encouraging or enabling them to continue on a path of destruction in their own lives. While we are not responsible for another’s actions, we can discourage ungodly behavior towards us by not allowing it to continue.
“Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. The one who sows to please his sinful nature, from that nature will reap destruction; the one who sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life,” Galatians 6:7-8.
When we do not establish healthy boundaries with a destructive person, we are giving them opportunity to sow to the flesh. Our boundaries may not stop them from treating others badly, but we will have done our part by being a godly example in conduct when we do not allow such treatment to continue.
“And let us consider one another to provoke unto love and to good works,” Hebrews 10:24.
We are not held accountable for the behavior of others, only our own actions. Just try to remember, many times others will not like your healthy boundaries or decisions to stay away from deceptive and toxic relationships or situations.
Don’t argue or defend yourself, simply say no and disengage.
~ Mary Lindow ©
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|Mary Lindow has a passion for encouraging others in all generations and careers or vocations to live and express excellence through personal integrity, healthy accountability, and wise management of talents and skills. She is a sought after keynote inspirational and humorous speaker and teacher throughout the United States internationally in Ministers conferences, International Spiritual leaders Conferences, and in National and International training seminars for various organizations.|