Tough Love VS Enabling


Many of My followers are torn between innocent emotional love and tough agape love.

Sad to say, most are weak with cowardly emotional love and have become enablers.  It takes believers at the level of Kingdom Citizens, who clearly know My voice and have My heart, to be able to refuse to enable and instead know how to exercise tough love.

Tough love is extremely critical when a kind, sweet, gentle person with a tear jerking victim story, claims to be following Me, yet has remained for years in hidden and sometimes open sin.

These people either deny their condition, or say that I understand and have given them special grace in their sinful circumstance.

Enablers are sincere, loving believers and are very aware and troubled about the sin in the person and spend hours counseling, praying and weeping over the persons condition, yet are bound by the fear of confrontation, keeping them from doing what needs to be done.

An enabler may be a wife or husband, a best friend, a pastor or a teacher.  Many enablers will ask others to do what they know needs to be done, but lack the confidence to confront, because they are not sure of My voice in such high stakes situations.

When a person has sinned for years and will not stop making excuses, tough love may even be forced to turn him over to satan, to be physically abused, to prevent him from going to hell, 1 Corinthians 5:5 AMP.

Year in and year out, leaders, pastors and well respected brothers and sisters, go on in sin and even become demonized because of enablers.

Leaders with sexual sins often with many partners, or years of drug addiction or alcoholism, or a continual competitive bitter spirit, usually accompanied by controlling spirit, have held entire communities in slavery to satan.  This is all due to the gutless enabler gripped by fear, who refuses to listen to My Spirit and purify My body.

You will be shocked on that day when the books are opened and you see what I see.

People with prophetic gifts who speak only nice things because they want to be loved, are promoting eventual death to entire communities.

People who say they are afraid of giving the church a bad name, are actually protecting their own, hoping everything will just go away.

I have given very clear instructions how to keep My body pure, but enablers are so taken up with the excitement of growth, sin has been allowed to enter the camp and many will die.

“If your brother wrongs you, go and show him his fault, between you and him privately.
If he listens to you, you have won back your brother.
[16] But if he does not listen, take along with you one or two others, so that every word may be confirmed and upheld by the testimony of two or three witnesses.
[17] If he pays no attention to them refusing to listen and obey, tell it to the church; and if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a pagan and a tax collector.
[18] Truly I tell you, whatever you forbid and declare to be improper and unlawful on earth must be what is already forbidden in heaven, and whatever you permit and declare proper and lawful on earth must be what is already permitted in heaven,”   Matthew 18:15-18.


Jim Hammerle

Jim HammerleJim Hammerle  (1941-2017) began ministering with David Wilkerson and Nicky Cruz, founding Teen Challenge Philadelphia. 6 times pastoring a mission ship, 15 years with TV and radio, a retired businessman, Jim helped feed Ugandan widows and orphans, and helped Muslims find the Jesus who fed them. He was His banker and was privileged to give His money away, helping to build a Haiti orphanage and invest in USA lives.  Jim passed away on May 23, 2017 to be with the LORD.

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Tough Love VS Enabling — 1 Comment

  1. Thanks so much for the great message. I have been following the messages given through you. But it would be wonderful if I could see your message through your YouTube channel because I get notified of new messages much easier that way. And it would be much easier for me to share the messages with others that way. May the Lord continue to bless you~!

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