JUST A LITTLE WISDOM: Sometimes what we say is only meant for us. There are times that we are given revelations that are for our own correction.
I have noticed and have been there myself, when The Lord gives a word of correction and we assumed it’s for the body, when in reality, The Lord is dealing with us, about our own inner issues!
We love to include others in our own convictions, because many times we don’t want to face the fact that God is specifically talking to us, about our own behavior and attitude.
I find it most fascinating to see and hear a person always speaking about repentance, but can’t repent to anyone, because they are never wrong about their actions or behavior.
As a leader, God deals with me first about my behavior attitude and character. There are times I have had to apologize, because I came in the wrong spirit in dealing with certain issues. What I said may had been right, but it was dealt with in perhaps a spirit of anger or offense, which in turn may have caused harm to a soul.
That’s why now, I don’t deal with things until I have prayed, and God has dealt with me about the situation, even when it comes to defusing situations between members of the Body of Christ. I have learned to listen to both sides of their stories, analyze it through the Holy Ghost, and be led by the Spirit in my observation and calculation, concerning all situations, to draw a conclusion and obtain a solution to the problem.
This, through the years, can help a leader to not be accused of playing favorites toward anyone, especially if the situations includes family and friends. As a leader you must be careful that those close to you don’t try to make you their hit-man, against those they don’t like. That’s why as a leader you can’t have respect of person when it comes to dealing with those you are leading.
The Bible says in Proverbs 24:23, It’s not good to have respect of person in judgment. It takes a wise person to judge matters between persons that are having disagreements. It takes a person of maturity that is able to hear matters without being impartial and unbiased.
So many in leadership have destroyed and scattered the sheep because they have allowed their personal opinion of people to be distorted and tainted by someone close to them. We as leaders never allowed anyone to cause us to turn against anyone.
I have lost a lot of associates (because they were not friends) because they couldn’t get me to attack someone they had an ought against, or because I would not stop associating with someone they had a disagreement with.
I have tried through the years not to allow people to pull me in their private wars and battles with others. The word declares that we will reap what we sow. The only time we are to intervene is if The Lord is leading us to help defused a situation that is getting real ugly or to put out a fire that could damage the Body of Christ.
I learned a valuable lesson on how to deal with situations from a quiet standpoint. I never allow people to draw me into their anger. I would sit quietly, often times as the parties talk, with my eyes closed. I allowed each person to state their case without interfering in their stories allowing each one to talk. I listen to the spirit of their words. Words tell a lot about a persons emotions and attitude and mental state.
Listening in the spirit you can hear what they don’t want to say, or what they are trying to hide. Then I answer them from the Spirit of God often times revealing their heart to them the true reason they were upset and many times the issue wasn’t so much the person but the person reminded them of something a long time ago. Unresolved issues are the things that destroy today’s relationships.
Leaders before you answer before you make a decision before you judge a situation listen to what the Spirit is saying and not just what your emotions and intellect is saying.
~ Apostle Barbara R. Thomas
|Apostle Barbara R. Thomas is founder of I Come to Heal Ministries, A Woman’s touch Ministry, The Next Dimension Global Outreach Ministries and Spoken Word School of Ministry and she is on a mission travelling the world proclaiming the Gospel for soul to be won to the Kingdom of God. She has a mandate on her life to help brings others to their divine purpose.|