How to Get Your Children into Their Destiny


Did you know your destiny involves your children?  For those who have children, we can get so focused on our own careers and spiritual lives that we may not realize that our children are our ultimate destiny.

With the right coaching and guidance, they can achieve much more than we could ever accomplish in our own lives.  Grandparents, you grasp this easily.

I will pour out my Spirit on your offspring, and my blessing on your descendants. They will spring up like grass in a meadow, like poplar trees by flowing streams”   Isaiah 44:3–4.

A very powerful kingdom strategy is to help our children fulfill their own destiny.

Sadly, the statistics show that the majority of children who grow up going to church never return after they move from their parent’s home.  This should be alarming to us and cause us to make a concerted effort to find out where we are going wrong.

Why are our children not interested in church?  I believe that this young generation has such a high destiny and calling from God that they will experience opposition.  Most kids who leave church don’t really have a problem with Jesus but somehow were not able to make the connection with their parents’ God.

This generation is looking for something very real.  They must believe in what they do with all their hearts or they are not interested.  Most Sunday schools and youth groups are not providing the connection and challenge they need.

Music and expression of who they are plays a big role in young people’s culture.  They want to be understood and viewed as unique so they have special ring tones on their cell phones, particular songs on their Facebook pages, expressive photos on Instagram, significant tattoos and uncommon piercings.

The best way to help our children is to listen to them.  Ask them specific questions about how they feel.  Ask them to describe a type of church that they would like to attend. Help identify things that they are good at.  These talents are often clues about their destiny.

Do their friends open up and share their problems with them a lot?  Then they probably have a strong gift of counsel.  Do they give freely to people in need?  Then they may have a gift of compassion.  Are they strongly opinionated and seem to buck the system?  Most likely they are a leader in the making.

Years ago, my daughter was having difficulty deciding what she wanted to do with her life.  I wanted her to pursue a higher vocation than she was in because of her intellect.  She is smart, witty and has a lot to give.  I started to point out the things that I noticed she is good at.  I helped her to recognize her strengths and helped her see the God-given gifts within her.  I also agreed to help her in any way I could and let her know that I would support and bless her in whatever field she decided to pursue.  Within a short period of time, she began to get a clearer picture of what she likes and wants to do and it was more suited to her intellectual level.

Our children are our destiny!  It helps to see that they are not only the future generation, but that our children can contribute now and we can help them.

How are you going to help them find new hope and purpose today?  Pick just one small thing and watch it impact them like:

  • Learn to speak their language – what’s the new lingo?
  • Value their music – what’s their favorite tune?
  • Talk about their problems
  • Listen when they tell you stuff (even the most insignificant – if they are talking, it’s important to them) – just to name a few things we can try.

Enjoy watching their destiny unfold before you.


Doug Addison
inLight Connection

Doug Addison

Doug Addison  is a prominent conference speaker captivating audiences with clean stand-up comedy and high energy prophetic messages which he has shared on television, radio and the internet for over a decade. Doug brings laughter, fun and a unique prophetic style while empowering people to transform their lives, discover their destiny and understand dreams, tattoos and piercings. His powerful messages stay with his audiences long after hearing him.


How to Get Your Children into Their Destiny — 1 Comment

  1. Acts 16:31 (NKJV)
    31 So they said, “Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and you will be saved, you and your household.”