There is a cry in the hearts of a fatherless generation. God has given me dreams where I’ve seen the questions they’ve asked. I’ve heard the pain in their voices, the anger that has come in as a result of feeling fatherless and abandoned, and how the enemy has taken them captive because of it.
I’m not sure exactly who I’m talking to today. I know there is someone specific that has these questions in their heart. If I only reach the one, that’s okay. God has an answer for you, but before I go on, I want to say something.
There are times when people fail us. In big ways and small ways, failure is a part of everyone’s life. The enemy is very good at twisting our perception of truth and spinning a lie so that what we believe is the most painful version of an event. Sometimes the truth looks nothing like what we have built it up to be in our mind.
I know of situations like that, where the child saw a situation from one point of view, and then learning the parent’s side of the story, where one parent actually kept the other one from being able to be a part of the healing or help the child when they needed it.
Yet, the child could only see what they thought they knew, and not the whole picture. Bitterness and fear tempt parents to play games and use their children as pawns all the time. It’s the most painful sort of game, with the children that suffer because of it. They grow up learning to take sides, and usually a skewed perception of one parent because of something the other parent did trying to win their child’s loyalty at any cost.
My hope is that in reading through this, you can open the door to your heart a crack wider and see a bit more of the bigger picture. If you’ll open your heart to truth, that truth may hurt for a while but in the end it will help you heal.
A CRY FROM THE HURTING
I see a cry from a young woman. It may represent just one specific person, but again, it may represent many more.
There is a cry from the daughters, a wail from the deep recesses of their heart, “Father, why did you not stand up for me? Why didn’t you fight for me, defend me when the enemy came in like a flood?”
Sometimes this is the lie the enemy tells us about God. He accuses God in our minds as not being someone we can trust to take care of us. From parents that left their children far too soon to parents that were simply absent and unaccounted for in their manner of relating to their families, it has left behind a trail of woundedness and a sense of rejection. It has hardened the hearts of children and led them to believe that God is not real, or He is disinterested and unloving.
Their cries were silent, while their soul suffered in disappointment when the men in their lives failed to stand up and lead like men. Perhaps it was simply a lack of knowing how to parent with love, strength and conviction; many men have not been fathered themselves.
Perhaps it was due to men working or traveling long hours and they became unavailable. Perhaps weakness in their role models left entire generations of people feeling abandoned, confused and ill equipped for parenthood.
Mothers and other women took up the slack and became the dominant role model, and many due to no fault of their own. In some situations it was just necessity, but God’s order got turned upside down, and that left it’s mark.
A witchcraft spirit will cause the male role model to became despised and unwanted in some homes because the male authority is supposed to represent Christ’s authority and God’s divine order. If rebellion is allowed to grow, it lays the groundwork for the perverse spirit to gain an even stronger hold on the family.
A spirit of fear often masquerades as manipulation, guilt and uses control to dominate the household. This spirit makes prey of others and turns them into victims. The perverse spirit twisted their perception of relationships, turned them upside down and reversed the order.
Seducing spirits have led many individuals into a homosexual lifestyle, or a lifestyle marked by dependency upon anyone that could possibly fulfill their desire to be taken care of, even if it was in an illegitimate way outside of God’s design. People that are fearful and unsure of their own abilities, and those that cannot bring themselves to trust God, will look for security through dependence on others.
The need to feel loved and secure has been so great that it took priority over wisdom, truth and faith. A new normal is defined yet it is far from healthy. Many, on some deeper level know it to be true; they are just afraid of feeling so lonely, rejected and fearful of an unknown future that they can’t bring themselves to face the truth and make the changes that are required to walk a different path. They have made someone else god in their life which will only ever produce feelings of dissatisfaction, more fear and insecurity, frustration and confusion.
WHY DIDN’T YOU LOVE ME? WHY DID YOU GIVE ME UP?
This word is even more specific. I see a young Muslim man who has the question in his heart, “Why did you give me up?” “Why did you abandon me when I was yet so young and still innocent?” “What did I do to deserve being abandoned to a fate such as this?”
Fear came in while you were still very young, and has been your companion since your infancy. Fear is like this demonic guard dog that is with you night and day. You can’t get away from it, and it has left you angry and full of questions. This is a cry from many individuals.
It affects both male and female, and this pain is being used to attract people into the wrong purposes. You lost your voice and lost your identity, and the enemy will try to convince you that you can force the world to hear you roar. The deception from the enemy is that you can fulfill a great cause and make your life count by making a strong statement and you force the world to finally hear you – but the lie is that you are aligned with the right cause.
Anger blinds people to truth and the enemy is aware of that. If Satan can use your anger to achieve his purposes to kill, steal and destroy, then he will spin his lie suited to the lies he has told you in the past. He has, after all, forged your belief system to align with his.
This is the hook the enemy is using to pull people into fighting for terrorist groups like ISIS. This cry is especially strong in the heart of Muslims, and the enemy is taking advantage of those without a sense of identity and purpose to lure them into fulfilling his agenda.
Fathers and mothers are to impart a sense of identity and purpose in their children, but when those deep needs are not met, people will grow up looking for ways to fulfill purpose in ways that speak to their heart.
If they are angry, their anger will draw them into things that channel that anger into a negative purpose. If they feel abandoned, they may look for a sense of family and connectedness in gangs or other ‘false family’ structures. How they perceive themselves, God and others has everything to do with how people seek a sense of fulfillment and purpose as they grow older.
I saw a Muslim youth in my dream. He wanted to know why his mother had given him up and did not fight for him. That is a hard thing to answer, but especially in that culture, for their world is remarkably different than the Western world.
I understand the nature of what he was questioning, though. He wanted to know why someone didn’t save him from the life he was born into. He took it as an abandonment from God, and the enemy came in to tell him about a different god.
You see, children are not born evil, but they can be born into it, and the enemy then begins the task of inflicting pain, corrupting their minds and hearts, and robbing them of all their innocence. Children are naturally innocent and it hurts them greatly to witness evil and become subject to that in their lives.
Many Muslim children, especially those raised by extremists or in other parts of the world, are forced into doing things against their conscience, controlled by great fear, and learn to hate themselves in the process.
It is a painful and terrible thing to rob children of their innocence and defile their conscience, for without the truth about the One who loves them… the One who died in their place so that they could know genuine forgiveness and wholeness… without the truth of how repentance and confession can cleanse the soul… without the truth about their Heavenly Father that is nothing at all like their earthly father… they must carry the weight of their sins.
If someone never tells them the truth, they will never know that there is a far different reality for those that will choose Christ, for His blood can cleanse their soul from all the unrighteousness and painful memories that haunt their soul. His love can provide a way out of the life they didn’t choose for themselves.
No matter where you may be in life, if you’re feeling abandoned, rejected, fearful or angry about your past, present or future… The truth is, God did not abandon you. He has not abandoned any of us, for His word states in Hebrews 13:5,
“I will never leave you nor forsake you.”
I prefer the Amplified version of the Bible for it says it like this:
“…for He [God] Himself has said, I will not in any way fail you nor give you up nor leave you without support. [I will] not, [I will] not, [I will] not in any degree leave you helpless nor forsake nor let [you] down (relax My hold on you)! [Assuredly not!]”
Psalm 91:1-16 offers this consolation,
“He who dwells in the shelter of the Most High will abide in the shadow of the Almighty. I will say to the Lord, “My refuge and my fortress, my God, in whom I trust.” For he will deliver you from the snare of the fowler and from the deadly pestilence. He will cover you with his pinions, and under his wings you will find refuge; his faithfulness is a shield and buckler. You will not fear the terror of the night, nor the arrow that flies by day, …”
Deuteronomy 31:6 says,
“Be strong and courageous. Do not fear or be in dread of them, for it is the Lord your God who goes with you. He will not leave you or forsake you.”
And 1 Peter 5:7 says,
“Casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you.”
The truth is found in God’s word.
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved,” John 3:16,17.
“He who did not spare His own Son, but delivered Him over for us all, how will He not also with Him freely give us all things?” Romans 8:32.
Nothing Can Separate Us from God’s Love
Romans 8:31-39 tells us the TRUTH.
31 “What shall we say about such wonderful things as these? If God is for us, who can ever be against us? 32 Since he did not spare even his own Son but gave him up for us all, won’t he also give us everything else? 33 Who dares accuse us whom God has chosen for his own? No one — for God himself has given us right standing with himself. 34 Who then will condemn us? No one — for Christ Jesus died for us and was raised to life for us, and he is sitting in the place of honor at God’s right hand, pleading for us.
35 Can anything ever separate us from Christ’s love? Does it mean he no longer loves us if we have trouble or calamity, or are persecuted, or hungry, or destitute, or in danger, or threatened with death? 36 (As the Scriptures say, “For your sake we are killed every day; we are being slaughtered like sheep.”) 37 No, despite all these things, overwhelming victory is ours through Christ, who loved us.
38 And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow — not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love. 39 No power in the sky above or in the earth below — indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord.”
I PRAY THAT TRUTH SHATTERS EVERY LIE!
Dear one, the enemy of your soul is not your father or mother. It’s understandable to feel angry when one is disappointed, hurt or betrayed. It makes a person feel inconsequential and unimportant, rejected.
Your enemy is not those who failed to provide a good role model in your life, or those that did not stand up for you the way you wanted them to.
People fail one another all the time. The enemy is not those who rejected you or left you feeling confused, betrayed or abandoned. It’s not those that have neglected to protect you from harm, disappointment or even those that have perpetuated evil against you.
The enemy of us all is Satan himself. I pray that you realize this and allow truth to restore your soul, to deliver you out of captivity, and to revive your heart. I pray that you turn your broken, grieving heart over to the One who can make it whole again.
Jesus can even restore your innocence if you will just trust Him to bring you out of bondage and into the light of His truth. You may never have all the answers as to why certain things happened in your life, or why you had to experience such deep disappointments, but that alone is not evidence that God – the real God – does not exist.
The presence of pain, anger, or disappointment as a result of others’ actions does not validate whether or not your Heavenly Father is real. It simply means that those that contributed to your pain did not know God themselves or allow Him to change their heart for the better.
They did not understand their true identity or that God is love. He has not left you, even when everything inside of you screamed that He abandoned you.
Jesus has not left you, even when your mind was surrounded by darkness and discouragement. Even when the enemy, working through negative circumstances, tried to convince you otherwise.
God is holy and cannot lie; He has always been with you even when you did not know how to connect with Him. He is with you now, if you will just take a step of faith and cry out to Him.
Those that call to Him, shall never be forsaken.
“Call to Me and I will answer you, and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know,” Jeremiah 33:3.
~ Laura Gagnon
|Laura Gagnon is a woman who has been blessed with the gift of understanding God’s restorative work through her own personal experience. Through her insights and revelation, God has led her to influence many individuals into a restored relationship with Jesus Christ. She is a woman who stands on the promises of God, encouraging others in an elevated expectation of the miraculous and declares the gift of His life. Laura is the author of Healing the Heart of a Woman and writes for her blog, Beyond the Barriers.|