There are so many opportunities The LORD gives us in life to be ONE, and many things that are cycles or repetitive that follow.
It all begin in The Garden when The LORD said, “It is not good for man to be alone so I will make for him a helpmate.” [Genesis 2:18]
In real life, we repeat the pattern established by The LORD. When a man and a woman marry, and they take a vow to leave and cleave to each other, they become ONE.
Then, when a man and a woman consummate the marriage in sexual intimacy, they become ONE.
Then, when the woman conceives a child through those times of intimacy, a seed is planted in the womb of the woman. The end result is they are blessed with a boy or a girl baby.
Then the boy grows up and (most often) repeats the cycle, as well as does the girl.
The mother of the boy baby then repeats the “leave and cleave” cycle again in much the same way as she did when she became a wife.
If you are a ‘Boy Momma,’ this one is for you.
You always hear about a girl’s daddy “giving his daughter away” on her wedding day. I had never thought much about the Mommas and their sons.
But y’all Mommas give away something too. Something just as precious. Something I knew I would never get back!
I gave away being the one he hugs and kisses.I gave away being the one he looks for in a crowd.
I gave away being the first person he turns to when things get tough.
I gave away being the one he makes laugh in the middle of day.
I gave away being his number one girl.
I gave away a piece of my heart.
I gave away my son.
Deep down I know he will always love me, but I also know he loves her more. He loves her more than his Momma, and that’s okay.
That’s how I knew he had found the one! But isn’t that what we want? We want them to marry a girl who they will put first even if it means we become second.
Love him while you are still first.
Kiss his sweet baby face and linger in those lanky teenage hugs.
Drive him to school, even when he is grumpy and doesn’t say a word to you.
Listen when he needs to vent and blow off steam.
Love on his friends.
Bring the Motrin to school for the 100 thousandth time. He may have a headache OR he may just want to get out of class and chat with you for a minute.
Sit next to his hospital bed — even though he screwed up.
Soak up every minute under those Friday night lights.
Love him, forgive him, and forgive yourself for the things you didn’t get right.
Because one day, you will give him away.…
You will stand and watch him give his heart to the love of his life.
You will dance, and he will say the sweetest things about who he has become, because of you.
He will hug you tight and it will feel a little bit like a goodbye.
You will become his second best girl and it will be so dang HARD.
©Author: Alyssa Becnel
Many girls are just as close to their dads as their moms.
But I grew up longing to be a ‘Daddy’s girl’, as the saying goes. I always wondered why “the Father of the Bride” gave her away when she fell in love and got married.
But The LORD in His lovingkindness, has ‘in my old age’ brought much healing and understanding to me as I have embraced Him totally as my Father, Husband, Savior, Friend and Lover of my Soul.
I felt to share this today, about the process of ONENESS, because many women with boys have shared with me in prayer counseling that they (especially the divorced ones) felt God was ‘unfair’ to give them a son that would marry and another woman would replace her.
God’s Plan Was Never to Open a Door to Rejection
My dad and mom were divorced when I was three years old, and I believe that is when the spirit of division first showed up in my life.
My mom also grew up without a dad. He walked out one day to get a cup of coffee and never came back.
My husband left me for another woman when my children were age 3 and 5. I went through a time of great loss of business, identity, and many painful things as a single parent full of resentful, because I was always working most of the time at two jobs and unable to be what I envisioned as a “real mom”.
When two wonderful women prayed until I came back to The LORD, I gave my sons to The LORD completely, because I felt like a complete failure.
And I say to you, He did a wonderful joy ‘leading, guiding, molding and making them’ into wonderful successful men, husbands and fathers.
I share this with a transparent heart to say, it has taken me many mistakes to be able to forgive myself and accept the call The LORD has had on my life since I received him at the age of nine years old.
In many cases, girls always still maintain a close relationship with their moms than boys do.
In many cases for women I have prayed for, the spirit of competition entered when their son married and instead of feeling like family, the world labeled them ‘in-laws’. In other words, by law, they are connected.
During the last few years as a called Intercessor against the spirit of DIVISION and competition that is rampant in our country and in our city (which The LORD pointed out to me when He called me as an intercessor in 2015 for this problem).
I have failed in the battle at times, won many times, gained ground at times but the good news is I have come to understand it from The Father’s Heart, and I am forever grateful.
I have also been hearing The LORD speak to me regarding the times we are living in.
The LORD said, “My People are in a true Identity Crisis that has brought them to a crossroads of turning left back into deception and living in the lies of division, that are forcing them to prove who they are and embracing the cycle of endless defeat with the enemy.
I AM here to place their feet on the right path to freedom, and open the eyes of their understanding of WHO they are, and deliver them from their divided heart that lives in rejection and pain.
I AM hear to cause your hearts to beat with Love and Acceptance, for I AM The Lover of your soul.
You release sons, you gain daughters, you gain sons, you release daughters, as they embrace the roles of husbands, wives, sons and daughter.
My Plan is always for ONENESS and never for DIVISION.
My Plan is for intimacy, never for rejection.
My Plan is for open hearts, open arms and open homes,” says the Creator.
“Know that when you give your son away, he will release what you have planted into him; he will love as you have loved him, and he will give as you have given.
Beloved, you have passed it on, paid it forward, and that relationship will live forever, because it is sealed by My Love,” says The LORD.
“Know that when you give your daughter away, she is going forth to embrace the one she will become ONE with, just as you became ONE in order to bring her life.
She will one day possibly become a mother, who will demonstrate what she lived and learned as a child as she endeavors to instill the deep knowledge of acceptance and desire for intimate relationships with those placed in her life,” says The One who gives LIFE.
If you are the Mom of a daughter, this one is for you.
To all the daughters-in-The-LORD, whom He has lovingly entrusted me to mentor and love.
‘Mommas of Daughters’
I give you away to the one God has chosen for you.
I send you joyfully to leave and cleave and forever be true.
I give you assurance now and forever, I will always be here for you.
I give up first place as the person you turn to when you feel alone.
Knowing that when you walk with Jesus, you go to the throne.
I give you laughter and hidden memories as we simply part.
Daughter, know you forever have a piece of my heart.
Author: Sandi Holman
In real life today, people are hungry for relationships and hungry for the one more important relationship they will ever have: a relationship with Jesus as savior, friend and lover.
I hear The LORD say, “I desire to heal brokenness and create ONENESS.
I desire true heart to heart relationship with My Chosen Ones and I AM creating a circle of love as I draw My Family closer, enabling you to become one with Me.
The desire of My Heart for My Church is that they fit together AS ONE, and allow their gifts to work together, to accomplish My Plan for The Family of God,” says the Savior.
“This is a critical need in the world today, and an urgent need in preparation for My end-time Revival.
Many get excited about Revival and bringing the lost into The Church — but I say, it is the now time to revive relationship among The Church, and go out into the highways and byways AS ONE in agreement and one accord.
Will you come unto Me?
I AM ready to ignite those who will forsake all, to carry The Flame of My Love to a lost and dying world,” says the Savior of all the world.
~ Sandi Holman
Sandi Holman was called to the nations as an End-Time Handmaiden in 1984 with Gwen Shaw and served with YWAM Singapore and YWAM Charlotte in missions. Sword of The LORD Ministries came from a divine encounter with The LORD when He came into her prayer room and said, “I have come to put a sword in your hand and was given special instructions on how and when to use it.” She is an author, Prophetic Intercessor and Seer, Chaplain, Teacher, Speaker and Equipper, and Blogger who has also served as a Pastor Online with Beyond the Veil Ministries.