Discretion and Wisdom in Relationships
In relationships, whether they’re romantic, familial, or friendships, it’s easy to want to offer advice when we see someone we care about struggling or in a difficult situation.
But we must be careful to apply discretion and wisdom in how we speak and when we speak.
Discretion is Key
Even when our intentions are good, the way we offer advice can have unintended consequences.
Sometimes, our words, though well-meaning, might be perceived as criticism or judgment, especially when the person we’re advising is not ready to hear hard truths.
It’s important to evaluate the timing and the receptivity of the person before offering guidance.
Timing and Delivery Matter
The Bible teaches us that “a word spoken in due season, how good it is!” (Proverbs 15:23).
This reminds us that advice, though potentially valuable, should be shared at the right moment, with the right tone, and with love. Just as much as it’s important to have something wise to say, it’s equally important to wait for the moment when that wisdom will be received in the right way.
Protecting Peace
Sometimes, stepping back and allowing people to work through their own issues can be the wisest decision.
Our desire to help can sometimes unintentionally add pressure or create tension. In relationships, people must find their own way, and it’s essential to know when to support them silently with prayer, rather than with advice.
Love with Wisdom
At the heart of it all is love and care for others.
When we speak, let it be with compassion and wisdom, always seeking to uplift rather than criticize, and to guide without overstepping.
Proverbs 16:24 reminds us, “Pleasant words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the bones.”
Takeaway:
In everything, let us apply Wisdom and Grace.
Speak with a heart of Love, but know when to remain silent, and trust that God will lead us to the right moments for our words to have the most impact.
I had to learn!
Shalom
~ Syreeta Thomas
True.