My intercessors and prophets have truly been on me. They have rebuked me for something that they see is a hindrance to me.
After listening, I have come to the conclusion that they are right.
Many times as a leader, we are so busy trying to help people that sometimes we don’t see the mistreatment that is given to us through those we are pouring into helping to grow, or fighting to make sure they get to their destiny.
The compassion side often causes us to continually give chances to persons who basically don’t respect or honor us, but need us for some agenda they have.
Often we tend to reopen doors that should be nailed shut, because we want to see the destiny of people come to pass.
Listen leaders, we can’t allow the dishonor to continue! We must take a stand against it and even though you so badly want the person to make it, you must realize that one person can create great warfare against you.
When people see those connected to you are mistreating you and you are allowing them, it sets the stage for others to come along and mistreat you also.
They said to me, “Apostle, allowing those who dishonor you to feel that you are alright with it, because you keep allowing them access to you, gives them permission to continue disrespecting you, until one day they will do something so disgraceful to you in front of the people, that it will ruin your ability to be an effective leader.”
One thing I realized was that it makes you, as a leader, seem either incompetent or fearful of losing people, which indicates that either you are insecure, or dealing with rejection.
They said, “Apostle, don’t let people disrespect you or dishonor you, especially those who say you are their spiritual mother covering mentor. If others see the dishonor, they will take it to mean that they also have the liberty to do the same thing!”
They said, “Apostle, even those who have disconnected and publicly got with your enemies to try to ruin your name, then try to privately sneak back into your life without letting those whom they have bad-mouthed you to, to know they are trying to reconnect, is being dishonorable.”
I have heard from five intercessors and prophets along with my leader today, who also rebuked me, for allowing my compassion to override their behavior.
He said, “I know you want to see them get to their purpose, but,” he said, “they are disloyal and dishonorable and that is a combination for ministry disaster.”
He said, “People tend to judge you by who is around you and what you allow to be done to you.”
So as I laid before The LORD these last three days, He said, “Daughter, being humble and being naive and gullible, are different.”
He said, “People have accused others of being proud, because they won’t allow people to walk on them and belittle them.”
He said, “Look at the first thing they say when somebody stands up for themselves and doesn’t allow people to disrespect them. They say they are arrogant, but in reality, they are not allowing anybody to disrespect them.”
He said, “Receive their apology, but don’t allow them access to what they didn’t appreciate.”
He said, “Daughter, you have forgiven some over and over and yes, that is what you are to do, but you don’t have to let them have access to what they rejected, because of their inability to honor who you are and the authority I have placed on your life.”
So today, I come to free those of you in leadership who continue to get hurt and wounded by those persons who continually disrespect you.
Don’t allow the enemy to make you feel bad, because you won’t allow persons back into your life, those who continually bring you warfare and misery.
The actions of people, tell you if they want to continue a relationship with you.
I have taken heed to the voice of The LORD, my leader and those trusted individuals who only want what’s best for me, with no hidden agendas.
You see, you need persons who are going to be truthful to you and have a relationship of trust and honor; such that they are not afraid to tell you what can help to better you and grow you.
All leaders need a team who can give you constructive criticism and who love you enough not to see you destroyed in error, or behavior that can be toxic.
I thank ABBA for those who have that kind of relationship with me.
~ Apostle Barbara R. Thomas
Apostle Barbara R. Thomas is founder of I Come to Heal Ministries, A Woman’s touch Ministry, The Next Dimension Global Outreach Ministries and Spoken Word School of Ministry and is on a mission, traveling the world, proclaiming the Gospel, for souls to be won to the Kingdom of God. She has life mandate to help bring others to their divine purpose.