After my first post so many questions begin to develop concerning resolve and how can we reach some sort of resolution in relationships. I never like to talk about the negative on a matter without sharing some light on the positive methods that can be approached. In the first part of this post I wanted to share how the road that has no resolve could become an ugly situation.
But how many times have you heard someone say, why aren’t my prayers being answered? Why can’t I hear God’s voice? Why are these things always happening to me? Many times the answers to these situations lie in the area of an offense. Sometimes we are angry with God because of our circumstances. (No one ever wants to own up to that.) It is important to see that we are a lot further along the road of life to allow denial or selfishness to keep us from having good healthy relationships.
What are important steps to take in order to resolve trouble in relationships?
1. We need to take a good look at ourselves – where are we? Why did we react a certain way? People who have experienced bad relationships over and over usually find that they have some real issues getting along with others. We must do some honest examining. Ask, seek, and knock (Matthew 7:7).
2. Then we need to sit down when we can talk about the situation with the person/people. Not to argue it out or to have the last word but you get an understanding of what happened. With a heart of forgiveness talk about the situation with the person concerned.
3. It is important to resolve some things with the Lord being honest and ask Him to forgive us and also help us to forgive. To ask the Lord to help us to understand and allow this to be a teachable moment to avoid future offenses.
4. Then we must allow time to work out matters that we can’t and to pray – this is why James 5:16 clearly says Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed – then it speaks to us concerning prayer. We must pray to change, to become peaceful about situations when we are hurt or disappointed.
5. When we decide to see where we are and make proper adjustments then we begin to better understand the Lord. As we grow and mature as Christians the more we will mature in the things of God. As we grow the Lord gives us greater vision, clearer understanding and revelation in deeper matters.
Please read over these scriptures they give much insight in these matters and how God wants us to deal with issues of offense, more than everything God wants you to resolve these things. God bless you!!!
Matthew 18:15-20 “Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother. But if he will not hear thee, then take with thee one or two more, that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established. And if he shall neglect to hear them, tell it unto the church: but if he neglects to hear the church, let him be unto thee as an heathen man and a publican. Verily I say unto you, Whatsoever ye shall bind on earth shall be bound in heaven: and whatsoever ye shall loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven. Again I say unto you, That if two of you shall agree on earth as touching anything that they shall ask, it shall be done for them of my Father which is in heaven. For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them”
Isaiah 55:6-7 “Seek ye the Lord while he may be found, call ye upon him while he is near: Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts: and let him return unto the LORD, and he will have mercy upon him; and to our God, for he will abundantly pardon.”
Matthew 5:22-24 “But I say unto you, That whosoever is angry with his brother without a cause shall be in danger of the judgement: and whosoever shall say to his brother, Raca, shall be in danger of the council: but whosoever shall say, Thou fool, shall be in danger of hell fire. Therefore if thou bring thy gift to the altar, and there remembers that thy brother hath ought against thee; Leave there thy gift before the altar, and go thy way; first be reconciled to thy brother, and then come and offer thy gift.”
Prophet Phyllis Ford of Phyllis Ford Ministries is called by God’s grace as a prophet to the nations; now in ministry for 27 years. With yearly and monthly Words, she and husband Apostle Miles release the Word of the Lord via their website. Her ministry emphasises the Watchman call and duty in governance, as she teaches prophetic schools of ministry, intercession and deliverance workshops and tours worldwide, speaking into the lives of ministry leaders, encouraging prayer, and releasing regional strategies.