Aspects of Insecurity


Here are some behaviors or traits that you may see in an insecure person.  Truly, if this is not skillfully addressed, there tends to be a lot of damaged relationships, harsh words spoken, and the loss of lasting friendships.

An insecure person is:
Defensive towards any challenge – The insecure person flares his or her insecurity when ideas or decisions made are challenged in any way.  They remain protective of their position or performance.

An insecure person is:
Protective of personal information – The insecure person keeps a safe distance from anyone they have working for or with them.  Their transparency is limited to only what can be discovered by observation. When personal information is revealed, it’s always shared in the most positive light.

An insecure person:
Always positions his or herself out front – Insecure people, especially leaders -assume all key assignments or anything which would give attention to the person completing them.  They are careful not to give others the spotlight.

An insecure person:
Limits other’s opportunities for advancement – The insecure person wants to keep people under his or her control, in order to protect their position.

An insecure person:
Refuses to handle delicate issues – Insecure people fear not being liked, so they often ignore the most difficult or awkward situations.

An insecure person:
Makes everything a joke – One huge sign of an insecure person is that they make a joke about everything.  Joking is a coping mechanism used to bring attention and a false sense of being liked.

An insecure person is:
Overly concerned about personal appearance – Some insecure people are never far from a mirror.  They are overly conscious of their clothing.  Afraid of not being in style or being accepted as hip or cool, they are constantly looking for the latest fashion trends or attempting to be cutting edge with the gadgets they carry.

Please understand, all of us have moments of insecurity.

Leaders, especially if they want to be effective, must learn to recognize signs of insecurity, figure out the root causes of it, and attempt to limit that insecurity from affecting their leadership, the way they treat their children or their spouse.

“Do not be anxious ( insecure ) about anything, but in everything, by prayer and laying everything out before God, with thanksgiving, present your requests (desperate fears) to God”   Philippians 4:6.


~ Mary Lindow ©

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” THE MESSENGER ” ~ Mary Lindow

Mary Lindow imageMary Lindow has a passion for encouraging others in all generations and careers or vocations to live and express excellence through personal integrity, healthy accountability, and wise management of talents and skills. She is a sought after keynote inspirational and humorous speaker and teacher throughout the United States internationally in Ministers conferences, International Spiritual leaders Conferences, and in National and International training seminars for various organizations.

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