Church Visitation Etiquette


I might as well talk about this one too:

Now this one really causes me to boil in the Holy Ghost, but when you go to somebody else’s house, you need to observe the protocol of that house, or call first and see what they expect from you and what you should expect from them.

These super anointed leaders feel like they can just go in and do what they want in somebody else ministry.

They come in and walk over the Leader of the House and start barking out orders and doing things that are out of order.

God doesn’t operate in confusion and chaos, so when you come in trying to arrange a house like you’re the leader and it’s your ministry, then you have overstepped your boundaries.

I have seen and heard people say,   “My anointing says I don’t have to submit to what the Pastor says…”

Please don’t let them think their titles are better than the Church Leader, then they expect that Pastor to bow to them and surrender their spiritual authority to them.

Some things that just need to be addressed:

  1. First you never enter the pulpit area until you are invited or escorted there.
    Many churches now have seats reserved on the front or to the side.
  2. You don’t bring your entourage up with you when invited unless the host gives you permission.
  3. Please don’t sit in the leader’s seat unless directed to do so by them.
  4. Please don’t give their leaders orders.
    You are a visitor not the Pastor.
    You obtain permission first from the Pastor, before addressing anyone with orders, as leaders many times have already given them instructions to follow.
  5. Please make sure you have cleared in advance for your musicians to play.
    Because many times and I have seen it happen musician break drums or instruments and just shrug their shoulders like “oh well!”, so some churches like for their own musicians to handle the instruments.
  6. Know that even though the Pastor has given you freedom, they are yet in charge.
    They are still the watchmen of the souls there and they yet have to protect them from wolves in sheep clothing.
  7. Don’t allow pride to cause you to be disrespectful to the people or the leader.
    Some people think they are better than others so they treat the people like they are beneath them.
  8. Don’t ask for the personal numbers of the leaders or members unless permission has been given.
    This protects the sheep and cuts out the confusion of other leaders trying to pull the sheep out of their place of accountability or connecting with them for monetary gain.
  9. Don’t ask members to come to your hotel and do personal errands.
    The Pastor will assign the persons they feel qualified to serve those in leadership.
  10. Make sure you report to the leader if the members try to personally contact you or come to your hotel without permission.
    This is how leaders fall or lies are told because of sneakiness.
  11. Don’t invite other persons out with you and the Pastor is taking you out to eat without getting permission.
    The leaders is only obligated to pay for your meal it’s a courtesy if they decide to pay for those with you.
  12. Your personal financial person is not in charge of the offering basket.
    They only assist with it and they are govern by the protocol of the house.
    Most leaders will ask you if you have someone to help count it unless that leader is a crook or money hungry and not trustworthy.
    I usually have my person to record the seeds the people sow to me because I have to report it and need an accurate record of what was taken in and what was given to me.
    This needs to be settled also before the engagement.

These are just a few observations from a leaders point of view.

Communication is the best thing when it comes to any speaking engagement.  Make sure you get a full understanding of everything before the engagement so misunderstandings don’t occur.

So if you get rebuked, the mic taken out your hand, or told,  “Never mind, they don’t need what you have to offer,” then don’t go out trying to say they mistreated you.

What they did was stop you from loosing disobedience, rebellion and craziness in the Body of Christ.

I’m snatching microphones and rebuking in this hour myself.  Losing friends comes with walking in integrity and character.


~ Apostle Barbara R. Thomas

Apostle/Prophetess Barbara R. ThomasApostle Barbara R. Thomas is founder of I Come to Heal Ministries, A Woman’s touch Ministry, The Next Dimension Global Outreach Ministries and Spoken Word School of Ministry and is on a mission, travelling the world, proclaiming the Gospel, for souls to be won to the Kingdom of God. She has life mandate to help bring others to their divine purpose.

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