Dealing with Difficult People


If you have ever worked or have tried to have meaningful dialog with a condescending and/or arrogant person or co-worker you’ll recognize the following characteristics.

☑️   They talk down to people.

☑️   They are unteachable because they know it ALL.

☑️   They have an attitude of superiority and no matter what you’ve done or where you’ve been, your experiences are not nearly as stellar as their experiences have been.

☑️   They can top you with their story or brilliant data.

☑️   They have great distain for those who need “too much” empathy during prolonged poor health or lengthy, difficult events.

Frequently their body language and facial expressions “scream” aloofness, disgust or disapproval, and they treat others as though they are dunces, boring, “old school” or stupid.

When people have a continual attitude of arrogance and condescension, it is a telltale sign that underneath their intimidating outward appearance lies a great deal of insecurity and pain, and it reveals a lack of confidence, a need for recognition, and a fear of rejection.

There are times when the “going the extra-mile” principle is the one God would have us practice.  Sometimes we just need to bear the burdens of kindness and graciousness with that arrogant person, not being intimidated by their behavior, but trying to ignore it as much as possible.

On the other hand, we may need to speak the truth in love to that condescending or overtly “snarky” individual, when God gives us the green light to do so.  Certainly God could use this person in our lives to teach us to humble ourselves as well, and do a heart-check regarding our own communication styles when under pressure, when feeling insecure or -simply to allow the wisdom of not speaking down to ANYONE to saturate our lives.

“Know this, my beloved friends. Let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger,”   James 1:19.

“Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves,”   Philippians 2:3.


In His Shadow,
~ Mary Lindow ©

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” THE MESSENGER ” ~ Mary Lindow

Mary Lindow imageMary Lindow has a passion for encouraging others – all generations, careers or vocations to live expressing excellence through personal integrity, healthy accountability, and wise management of talents and skills. She’s a sought after keynote, inspirational, humorous speaker and teacher across the U.S.A and internationally in Ministers & Spiritual leaders Conferences, and training seminars for various organizations.

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