“For I hate divorce!” says the LORD, the God of Israel. “To divorce your wife is to overwhelm her with cruelty,” says the LORD of Heaven’s Armies. “So guard your heart; do not be unfaithful to your wife,” Malachi 2:16.
Not only does it overwhelm the spouses with cruelty, it overwhelms the children as well.
Divorce doesn’t just rip apart the husband and wife, but it rips apart and destroys the identity of the children, strips them of security, ripping their world as they have known it apart.
It destroys families financially.
The grass isn’t greener on the other side, so you put energies and efforts into someone new rather than your spouse and family and rather than putting the effort in becoming a new you.
Divorce is rooted in rebellion, stubbornness, and pride. It is extremely selfish; when marriage and family and being a parent requires one to be selfless.
Only Christ can heal, mend, change hearts, and restore broken families. It takes one or both disconnected from Him to ravage and cause carnage to the sanctity of marriage and family.
Before anymore damage is done to the ones you profess to love the most (your children) seek the LORD.
Its cheaper to keep her/ him.
The LORD commands a blessing on unity (Psalm 133). To continue to destroy your spouse and your children’s lives only opens up demonic doors to curses upon them and the generations to follow.
When struggling to make that marriage work, to keep your family intact; its simple: Ask the LORD for the grace to put it back together, the grace to change yours-their hearts and be fully committed to allowing the LORD to transform you while you pray for your spouse.
If that is not feasible upon an initial break-up, then learn to co-parent peacefully and heal as individuals before ever bringing someone else in. You deserve that time, your children deserve that time of healing and most important the LORD deserves that time and permission to come in giving Him a chance as you yield to and work with Him to be healthy individuals leading to healthy families.
~ Jennifer Mars
Jennifer N. Mars is a Minister from Syracuse, NY and is a Co-Founder of Zion International Ministries.