Understanding Our Marriage Situations

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Leaders – Know Where You Stand!

Leaders, it’s time now to truly find out who is with you and who is against you.  It’s time to reevaluate loyalties credibility honesty among your team.  

This is not the season for you to allow anyone on your team that does not value teamwork accountability and honor.  Your enemies are holding positions that gives them leverage in their attacks against you.

Those persons who seem to be for you are often the ones strategically trying to take out those that actually are our warriors and intercessors.  These snakes, witches, evil doers and workers of iniquity, are getting very creative in their disguises and except you have discernment and a relationship with God you won’t detect them.

It’s time to call each person in individually, because these group meetings allow enemies to gain power to overthrow your focus by causing distractions so you can’t seriously detect who is who among you.

Individually, bring them before you and two other trusted mature full of wisdom leaders who are not bias or on a buddy system with your team.  It’s war time and the place to begin is in your inner circle, because they are more intimate than your administrative team members, because they are more knowledgeable of those private things.

Then bring in the ministerial team members, because of their interaction with the people.  They obtain most of their information from the inner circle and administrative personal involved with you and ministry.

Assess your team.  Get to work on it now.  Is the time to investigate, because in this new season you can’t bring old problems.

Your Five Fold Helps

Throughout your Christian journey, and especially being prepared and groom for ministry, you will pass through the hands of each of these five individuals at various stages of your spiritual development.  God uses each one at different dimensions of your growth so that you will be spiritually equipped to handle your assignment on earth.

  • Trainer:  A person who trains and teaches skills to prepare a person for a job etc, a person who provides assistance, a person who conditions somebody to be capable of doing something.
  • Mentor:  A experience or trusted advisor consultant tutor, a coach to younger or less experienced persons.
  • Guide:  A person who advises or shows the way to others, a person who leads or directs, a person who has influence on the course of action of someone.
  • Coach:  A person who instructs or train, a person who teaches students individually, a person who teaches people to improve.
  • Teacher:  A surrogate parent, a disciplinarian mentor counselor planner, a person who teaches especially in a school atmosphere, a educator, an instructor of certain subjects, a person who imparts knowledge and wisdom to help a person be effective in life.

Understanding Our Marriage Situation

God is not calling you into ministry so you can divorce your spouse.

There are too many homes being broken up because people feel like they are too anointed to stay with their husband or wife, because some over zealous, lacking in wisdom and understanding of the word person, prophesied to them that their elevation requires them to get rid of the spouse to whom they are married.

God is not going around destroying homes, because you have been called to preach!

Men and women, just because you are now saved, doesn’t mean that is any reason for you now to look at your spouse with contempt.  Remember, you started out as sinners together, and when you fell in love and married, you were marrying the person, not thinking about whether or not they were a sinner.

The person is yet the same person you married, they just haven’t given their life to God yet.

That man is yet providing for you, loving you, and doing his duties as the head.  That woman is yet being a wife to you and being the helpmeet, loving you and honoring you.

Yes, because you are now a born again believer, there may be a spiritual battle that comes fort,h but that yet don’t mean God is saying divorce your spouse, because now you want somebody in the church.

Can I tell you some wisdom?  Just because they are in the church, doesn’t mean they have marriage integrity, husband or wife wisdom, or even an understanding of marriage.  They are in the church, but that don’t mean they will treat you good or be faithful.

People are in the church, yet they have flesh issues, carnal actions and unrighteous behavior.  The person you are married to may not be saved, but they know how to treat you, how to love you, how to provide and take care of yo,u and how to protect you.

Sometimes they may be a sinner, but they are praying for God to help keep the marriage together while they struggling to understand your walk with God, but you get too judgmental, holy and prideful, because now you feel like you are better than them, as if you have a calling now and they are beneath you.

Instead of people really praying, asking for godly wisdom on how to pray and stand in the gap for their marriage, they just say, “I will get rid of them and get another.”  And you are yet single, because God didn’t tell you to divorce your husband or wife.  You did it because of your flesh, or listening to the wrong person, so now you are crying about a husband or wife and the LORD is saying you had one, but you made the decision to get rid of them.

Before you walk out the door, before you file the papers, before you get rid of your spouse, you had better pray seek God and learn how to fight in the Spirit for the one that you with!

God is about saving marriages not destroying them.  And before you say “But they this…” or “They that…,” remember you were this and that with them before you gave your life to Christ.  So give them the opportunity to learn Christ through watching your life, so they can make a decision to accept Christ too.

Often we are the reason our spouse won’t accept Christ, because of our attitude and behavior that we display in the home!

NOTE: Anybody who knows me, knows that I teach that if you are in a situation were there is abusive behavior that can do you harm, then you need to get out of harms way until the person gets help for their issues.  I will never tell you to stay in a house were you are being abused physically or mentally to the point were you want to kill yourself.

My words will be get to safety until the person gets help for their problems.

Let me clarify somethings, because people will say I am telling people to stay in a dangerous situation.  You can separate physically from that, but it yet don’t mean God is saying that’s the end.  People sometimes won’t seek deliverance from things until they realize they are about to lose somebody valuable.


~ Apostle Barbara R. Thomas

Apostle/Prophetess Barbara R. ThomasApostle Barbara R. Thomas is founder of I Come to Heal Ministries, A Woman’s touch Ministry, The Next Dimension Global Outreach Ministries and Spoken Word School of Ministry and is on a mission, travelling the world, proclaiming the Gospel, for souls to be won to the Kingdom of God. She has life mandate to help bring others to their divine purpose.

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