The LORD says,  “Love My Daughters as your own soul.

Give yourselves fully to your wives as unto Me and do not be disrespectful or faithless.

They are My jewels and I give them to you to treasure, not abuse.”

“He who loves his wife loves himself.”   Ephesians 5:28.

Since March 2026, the Spirit has been showing me two different men, both of whom hold a position of influence, or even power.

They both come from privileged backgrounds and they have had excellent educations and training that ought to have prepared them for this moment.

They both have a very great ancestral mantle and the weight of expectations of many generations hangs heavily upon them.  Perhaps histories of ministry in particular denominations?

I am seeing an enormous inheritance, spiritual and to some extent, physical.

They are resented by other people because of their privileged backgrounds, and yet simultaneously, other people are trying to curry favour with them because of their position of influence.

They both “play their cards close to their chest” and do not take many people into their deepest confidence.

I am also getting the sense that even though their manners and lifestyles are different, both the first man and the second man are “homosocial” and come from backgrounds that encouraged a “manly” homosocial culture that does not always respect women, though it is heavily reliant on women to succeed.

“Homosocial” means a preference for non-sexual and non-romantic relationships or friendships with other people of the same sex.

So both these men, despite their sexual preferences, find it easier to enjoy the company of, or form friendships with, other men.

Both men are also married.

In their different ways, both men have a sense of destiny and calling instilled by their family history.  They want to do great things for The LORD.

But they do not always understand how secular and un-spiritual some of their aims are, nor how repellent to God some of their methods have been.

Scenario One

The first gentleman is fairly young.  He pushes himself to excel.  His manners are gracious and sociable and he makes friends easily.

He has had a fairly easy life and his greatest regrets are related to frustration and impatience in implementing his plans.

He is also self-entitled, deceitful, manipulative and lacking in compassion.  He exploits his position, sometimes ruthlessly.

He knows much about Scripture and Doctrine and is quite judgemental and small minded about spiritual matters and He shies away from anything prophetic or from friendship with The Holy Spirit.

He thinks he seeks to honour God, but he does not see how, even more than this, he seeks honour for himself that comes from people, and so he does not know how very distant from God he actually is.

There are many around him vying for attention, but he does not always value them rightly, either for ability or for loyalty.

Now and then he drip-feeds little bits of information to others — but only if it will ultimately be of use to him to do so.

His wife wasn’t exactly his choice, and he wasn’t originally her choice either, but she is absolutely devoted to him as though he were.

He trusts her, in so far as he is really able to trust anyone, and he uses her in his plans with her full cooperation.

They have children, though I think I see some untimely deaths among their sweet little brood.

Her family are going through difficulties, and he is very supportive and generous towards them, even to the point of alienating the people he is supposed to be representing as part of his position.

He knows his wife adores him and believes in him utterly, but he isn’t fully faithful to her —  physically or emotionally.

He thinks of himself as “esteeming” her more than anyone else in the world, but he feels he cannot live always within such constraint and makes excuses for himself.

He tries to be discreet for his wife’s sake and even more for the sake of his own reputation, but he pursues women for their beauty and how it makes him feel being with them at the time of his passion for them.

The passion is never lasting though and for all that, he doesn’t actually know how to be genuinely friends with a woman.

Of all the people he has known and the women with whom he has had relationships, only his wife, and possibly one other person whom he has never particularly valued, will genuinely regret his passing away.

His apparent youthfulness is interesting and I feel The Spirit is telling me this is his level of emotional and spiritual maturity.

His wife appears even more youthful, but has the potential to be much more mature and do great things for The Kingdom, if only she were not with him, or if only he would mature.

Without “repentance unto holiness” and a deep move of God, this is the level at which they will stay forever.

All his plans will come to nothing and she will not move beyond him.  He will leave behind no great legacy.

Scenario Two

The other man is older.  Unlike the first man, despite his privileged background, this man has known adversity, tragedy and deep sorrow and He too pushes himself to excel, though he has poor health.

This has given him deeper Faith, more grit and more Humility.

Unfortunately this has also caused him to close in on himself to some extent as He is too self-reliant and he generally keeps a tight rein on his emotions.

His own resilience and determination to push on despite his poor health make him lack compassion for others who suffer.

He is impatient with incompetence, but this is tempered by a sense of humour.

He finds it easier to be in the company of other men, though this has caused some foolish people to think he is secretly homosexual.

He chose his wife and after a shaky start they now love each other deeply.

It has been a bitter disappointment not having children but they take comfort in The LORD and in each other and they find pleasure in the children of friends and family.

He doesn’t entirely realise just how very much he loves her, or how heartbroken he would be without her.

So he allows himself to make many comments that hurt her feelings, and he is too open in his expressions of impatience with her.

At the same time he is very proud of her and very generous towards her, enjoying giving her jewellery and other gifts.

He is careful not to have a reputation for infidelity or openly embarrass his wife, though he does discreetly enjoy the conversation of women who are both intelligent and pretty.

His wife knows and has expressed her unhappiness, but it hasn’t stopped him and he does not acknowledge at all just how hurtful this is to her.

She is kind and intelligent, but her style of beauty isn’t fashionable and her education wasn’t comprehensive, so despite efforts to improve she always feels second-rate compared to the women whose conversation and attention her husband enjoys.

Emotional infidelity is the cause of much misery in marriage.

I am seeing his wife as physically younger than he is but spiritually and emotionally she is already much more mature.

She does, however, lack self-confidence, which his treatment of her hasn’t helped, for she looks to him for guidance.

He has rather enjoyed this, though he knows himself too little to understand it.  For much of their married life he encouraged her to stay in the background as he took care of business.

Now though he has more work to do and spends more time away, and so needs her to step up and play her part.

She is finding this very difficult and he is not always sympathetic, thus she desperately needs more emotional and spiritual support than he currently gives her.

They are meant to work together to do great exploits for The Kingdom.

His faith is a little too “arm’s length” and God longs to hug him close, but he doesn’t see this and wouldn’t know how to receive it.

He prays in Faith — but hates to be thought a “God-botherer”.

His wife needs him to let go of his inhibitions and learned behaviour.  She needs him to open up and fully embrace the personal love of God, to be comfortable with her growing strong and flying freely in the spiritual realms as she was born to.

She is key to the transformation of many lives.  If he can do this for her, he will help many others too and he will be able to fly freely himself and join her in bearing much fruit for God.

Both Men

• Both men are guilty in differing ways of not treasuring their wives as Christ would.
• Both men don’t entirely know how to give or receive affection or how to maintain a friendship with their wife.
• Both men think of themselves as educated, sophisticated “men of the world.”
• Neither man understands that in the ideal marriage, each other (your spouse) should be your greatest earthly friend and you should both look to The LORD as your greatest friend of all.

Conclusion

I cannot see whether this is all purely in the natural or is a type of spiritual parable about our following Jesus, but not repenting of acts and attitudes that displease Him, allowing and excusing worldliness that we should repent of.

Given that The LORD uses even His own Scripture in both ways, though, I think He probably means it both literally and metaphorically.

I also know, from other Words that I have received but not yet released, that The LORD has a deep heart for Marriage, the relationships between men and women, and our Identity as Sons and Daughters of God.

The LORD is concerned about how we are currently conducting ourselves; how we are raising our children, and the prevailing culture of The Church and society in general.

God’s Love should be the answer to everything.

The question is, “Whose love are you pursuing?

How are you pursuing it — and why?

 

~ Iris Maud, UK.

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Iris Maud, UK.

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