Keeping Boundaries of Involvement
As a leader, I rebuke and correct in order, wisdom, love and without bias.
I don’t viciously attack people on social media. I don’t entice endorse or condone drama, mess or gossip.
I don’t take sides when it comes to issues. I listen to both sides and then try to come to a reasonable peaceful solution between the two parties.
I teach leaders disallow people to pull you into a place were your character is questioned by others.
I teach not to allow emotions to override the Spirit of God, who teaches us to follow peace with all, and to love as Christ. Learning how to maintain control of yourself when you are under attack shows a sign of true maturity.
So many people in leadership pick sides, especially if that person is a financial supporter or a great asset to the running of the ministry.
We also tend to defend our friends and join in with them, when they are upset with someone. We also must be careful that we are not judging people, just off the words of somebody who has something against an individual.
I always say, people, just because you have a problem with somebody doesn’t make them my problem. Just because you can’t fellowship or get along with somebody, doesn’t mean God didn’t tell the other person.
I have friendships with persons whom others may not or cannot have friendship with, because you keep boundaries in place.
We don’t discuss the person they have a problem with, and we don’t bring up the past issue they had with them. We should be mature enough to have our own individual assignments in the Kingdom without having a conflict among each other.
We need to understand that there are persons that are an assignment to others that may be a discomfort to us.
We can’t demand people to make choices between us and others. It doesn’t mean they are against you or trying to harm you it just means they are obeying The LORD concerning a person who needs their wisdom advice knowledge and teaching.
We get offended often because of our pride. We feel like, “How can my friend accomplish in this person’s life what I couldn’t do?” And when we see the person whom we have something with, excelling under somebody else’s leadership, we become jealous and upset about it.
Working together is so much better than fighting each other. Work your assignment and connection and don’t allow people to get you involved in their personal battles and vendettas against others.
It’s always the will of God for us to correct misunderstandings if we can. We also have to realize that everybody has their own will and that people can be stubborn and unbending in those cases you pray and keep moving you can’t make somebody forgive or not hold a grudge if they don’t want to let go.
Don’t you get stuck in bitterness with them! Much love and keep walking in 1 Corinthians 13. Love is the key
Assistants, Armor Bearers & Adjutants
There are three persons that as a leader we encounter in our vision that will be a part of the process.
This is the person who has their hand in everything, because they are not stable. They jump from one place to another learning each job, but never committing to anything.
These persons can’t be trusted, because they are unstable, unreliable and untrustworthy.
They are gifted, but not reliable. You can’t give them important assignments, because they won’t be completed. Like Absalom many come to assist but they are not there for you they are gathering information and knowledge for a revolt and a takeover!
This is the person who stands beside the leader to intercede for the leader to carry the leader’s armory as they go forth in battle.
This person has the leader’s vision. They are great supporters of their leader, but are prone to get prideful, if not careful.
They can be the most dangerous, because they can have inside information that they can used against leadership.
With them, you have to be careful that they don’t commit treason when they begin to be elevated by God. Also you have to watch out that they don’t kill you when you’re wounded.
Saul’s armor bearer, when he saw his leader wounded and bleeding, instead of trying to save him and encourage him, committing a murder instead.
This is the person with the ability to be able to help command the troops.
This person has the full authority from their leader to stand and act as their voice of authority. They are the ones who understand all the leader has been commanded to do.
They are extremely loyal, extremely faithful, extremely committed to the cause of the vision.
They can’t be persuaded, they can’t be enticed, they can’t be manipulated, into betraying their leader.
They are trustworthy vessels who stand boldly against any enemy or adversary who will attempt to invade the territory of their leader.
They are persons who know they are anointed. They know they are called and chosen they know that they have wisdom and knowledge, but they understand order and their place in ministry.
These are the persons whom you don’t have to be on guard with, for they are proven vessels. Even though they have their personal Kingdom assignments, they know they are called to the side of that leader for that time, and they won’t overstep their boundaries within the vision of their leader.
I know we look at the bad side of David and Saul relationship, but I see the godly parts. David stayed in his position protecting Saul and rebuking those around him for not protecting him when David was able to get to him and have the opportunity to destroy Saul.
Even though Saul was trying to attack David to destroy him David yet had Saul at heart because he knew he was yet his assignment. He was out of place naturally but not spiritually.
These three persons will show up in your ministry you just need to know who they are and keep them in their proper place.
~ Apostle Barbara R. Thomas
Apostle Barbara R. Thomas is founder of I Come to Heal Ministries, A Woman’s touch Ministry, The Next Dimension Global Outreach Ministries and Spoken Word School of Ministry and is on a mission, travelling the world, proclaiming the Gospel, for souls to be won to the Kingdom of God. She has life mandate to help bring others to their divine purpose.