Dealing with attacks from our friends


Sometimes, people are trying to warn you about everybody else, because they want to be the one to kill you themselves!  Three things The Lord spoke to me to tell the people to be watchful about in this season:


Don’t ignore the emotional and verbal outburst of people.  Even after they say they are sorry remember they meant the mean and nasty things they said to you and about you to others.

Often times people will try to justify what they have said by saying they were going through or that they were just angry.  Continual patterns of lashing out putting you down speaking derogatory are not emotional moments but real feelings that the person couldn’t hide at that moment.

Never let their bad behavior be blamed on you.  The most famous words of those who secretly hate you, are if you would not have done or said what you did, I would not have gotten that angry and said what I didn’t mean.  They meant it – they just thought you were going to keep letting them get away with it.

Sometimes, we allow people to keep crossing a line that God has drawn a long time ago concerning the relationship.  It’s time to stop letting people cross the line.


The foundation of a relationship should include mutual respect for one another.  Sometimes a person thinks because they are familiar with you that they can treat you any kind of way.

Set boundaries in the relationship.  No matter how much you care about somebody never allow them to be more important than your own peace and happiness.  Sometimes you’re so busy respecting others, until you start disrespecting yourself.

Never let people think that they are justified in their mistreatment of your feelings.  Set boundaries and if they respect you they won’t cross them.


Don’t ignore the signs of jealousy and intimidation and watch for the signs of manipulation.  Too often we act blind because we don’t want to accept the fact that a person has issues with us.

If every time something good takes place in your life it causes a person to become bitter toward you or causes a unprovoked attack then their are other issues involved.  Be careful of those that always give out threats or try to manipulate your actions toward them through their outbursts.

Jealous persons always accuse you of thinking you are better than them or that you don’t see their value or worth or that you are always sabotaging them or trying to secretly work evil against them.  What they are doing is accusing you of everything they are feeling thinking and doing toward you.

Be careful of those that are secretly harboring resentment toward you because they are capable of doing harm or causing damage to you.  Don’t ignore them they can be lethal to your destiny.

The Spirit of The Lord was dealing with me because so many are saying they are experiencing attacks from those that are close to them working with them or say they love them.

There are persons who started out good but allowed the enemy to come in and begin to speak lies in their ear.  Because they didn’t guard their heart they many times begin to become spiritually delusional about those they are working with in fellowship with or in ministry with.

The enemy comes in because the issues we often have not dealt with such as rejection unforgiveness hurts and emotional pains are doors and windows or openings for the enemy to use to bring us to a place were we can be used by him to hurt someone else.

Dealing with ourselves is something we don’t like to do but it’s necessary so we won’t become an instrument that satan can use against someone else.


~ Apostle Barbara R. Thomas

Apostle/Prophetess Barbara R. ThomasApostle Barbara R. Thomas is founder of I Come to Heal Ministries, A Woman’s touch Ministry, The Next Dimension Global Outreach Ministries and Spoken Word School of Ministry and she is on a mission travelling the world proclaiming the Gospel for soul to be won to the Kingdom of God. She has a mandate on her life to help brings others to their divine purpose.


Dealing with attacks from our friends — 1 Comment

  1. Dear Sister Barbara,
    I am so glad for your posts, especially those on relationships! It makes me sad that people hurt us, and even though we forgive, they still continue to hurt us, and not be accountable and responsible for their wrong words and actions! I was even “rebuked” by a friend, in the flesh, and whom I knew was definitely not in the Spirit! He did so in his capacity as pastor. No, I am not a member of his church. Now, the question I have is: what is the correct protocol for rebuking true prophets, and who would the right person to do the rebuking?
    I am at present in one such relationship, and now I am asking the Lord: Do I continue? Or do I stop/break such relationship? If I am to stop it, how do I do so, without hurting the other person?
    Your input would be greatly appreciated, for I know that there will be many who are in a similar position.
    Blessings, Paula