Love Breathes Life but Condemnation Kills


Like a thousand knives dipped in fire and hurled into the heart, so is the destructive force of a condemning tongue.

After a tumultuous experience losing my dad at the age of 11, I found myself wrapped in the claws of addiction throughout my teenage years and into my 20’s.  The world of substance abuse offered me an escape from the painful wounds in my soul.  Numbing the pain by losing my senses was the answer the world offered me when there seemed to be no other way.

But God, in His perfect love came down and set me free at the appointed time.  His Love mended the wounds and delivered me from the path of destruction.  His love burned the dross and cast away all fear.

I look back when the days where dazed and hopelessness seemed to be my daily bread, my thoughts settle on an enemy that kept me in a place of confinement and that cruel taskmaster was condemnation.

The accuser of the brethren knows very well that accusation, condemnation, slander, gossip and any malicious words against another is the catalyst to death.

He uses people of the world to do His bidding and also many in the church today who have been bound by religious strongholds that engender a false image of who the God of love truly is.

The famous words of many of the religious folk used against me while I was caught in the shackles of addiction were, “God cannot be mocked….  You will reap what you sow….”

I remember someone quoting scripture about a “dog returning to its vomit” when I had tried quitting the life of addiction in my own strength and failed.  The message of going to hell, was banged on my head numerous times.

Do people really believe that those in sin are voluntarily putting their hands up to be chosen for eternal flames?

As someone who was brought up in a Christian home, I believed in God, but did not come to a place of submission due to the battle with myself.  I will often say to people around me “Christians are the most judgmental people I have come across” – it was the truth of my experience!

Every word of condemnation painted a picture of who God was and even though I considered myself a Christian the very scriptures that people often quoted against me in condemnation dimmed my desire to come into the light and experience this God who appeared very cruel and lacked compassion for me.

Accusation, slander and all forms of condemnation were a common occurrence while in the pit and interestingly most of it came from believers, even the world seemed to be more understanding to my circumstance.

Every word against me was like an arrow which pierced the heart, doused any hope of God been the answer and led to a hardening of the heart.  Substance abuse became a reprieve even from the arrows of accusation and slander.

Before long, the carnal man reigned supreme and even those who came to me to minister in love were rejected by my inner hostility to the truth.  I had to hit rock bottom and come to the end of myself for healing to begin, and this was the work of God for which I am very grateful.

The scriptures say that life and death is in the power of the tongue; we have the ability to impart life or death in the words we speak.  As believers we carry the banner of Jesus Christ through our words and actions daily, we represent Him if we call ourselves Christian.

The world associates Jesus Christ with Christianity and they associate you to Him – how you treat the world is how they view the God you serve.

God is love, when we walk in His love, we emit a fragrance that attracts the dying world that are looking for a saviour.

We can bash people with the Bible on their heads and tell them they’re going to hell and watch when they turn and run from us or we can choose to walk in Love and witness the attractive force that love emanates.

Not everyone will be attracted to this love, due to their hardened hearts, but those who are ready and have been drawn by the Father, will inhale the scent of love you exude and they will find hope in their hopelessness.

To walk in love, we have to know love.  The only way to know love is through a personal encounter with love.

Jesus Christ offered the way into the paradise of love.  He is love and through Him lies an endless stream of knowing Love – your submission to Him through an intimate relationship is the key to unlocking the life that is saturated with His Love.

“….And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God,”   Ephesians 3:17-19 (NIV).


Ashley Hutheram

HKPAshley Hutheram – a son of God in Christ Jesus.



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Love Breathes Life but Condemnation Kills — 8 Comments

  1. Thank you for publishing this precious article / testimony. More and more Christians are like 2. Timothy 3 describes. End time…. LOVE… they do not want to love. Mostly the weary people and the most poor people have the biggest love inside. True love. They are almost dying of accusations and slander. These are they who suffer amidst of Christians. JESUS knows this all, and He returns sonn, o, very soon. Hallelujah !

    • Thank you Dear Marion. Your unwavering trust in Him is a pleasing aroma to the Father. I appreciate your insight. God Bless you dear Sister.

  2. God Bless You Ashley. I rarely comment on any posts, however Father in His Glory and Divine wisdom and LOVE sent your message as an inspiration of hope to me in this very hour of imminent breakthrough. I LOVE You my sister in Christ Jesus.

    • Thank You Dear Catherine. His Love will carry you through, the righteous are never forsaken. Love and blessings to you, you are the apple of His eye!

  3. Thank you for publishing this.  Pray that I may always lead with the LOVE of Jesus.  It is truly what I desire to do.  I pray the Holy Spirit enables me always to walk in His ‘fruit’ and demonstrate His Love.

    • Amen, TT. Your prayer is so awesome and truly characterizes your desire to know Him deeper. Be blessed!

  4. Thank you so much for sharing, I have been on both sides of this stick, as a self righteous one, wondering how people could “let themselves” become addicts to the agony of seeing my precious son fight heroin addiction and see three close families actually lose their children to this horrid situation. Through it all I have learned that Jesus loves those addicted and his arms are outstretched to them. I also learned that He has a way of changing our religious mindsets that have nothing to do with His unending love.  He has put me on my knees for every family that it facing this, and I consider it the greatest privilege to bring them to the mercy seat.

    • God Bless you Cathy… I am grateful I had a praying Mother who never lost hope… prayer is a powerful weapon and LOVE PRAYS. Thank you for sharing your experience. We move from glory to glory in Him, change and transformation even in our beliefs is inevitable.. truth sets free!