A Victim Mentality


So often, those who offer the wonderful opportunity and help with the promotion of someone else’s skills (whether it be a boss or an opportunity to develop your own business or vocation), find themselves being gravely taken advantage of.

Oh, it may start with those “little things” like a coworker or colleague not cleaning up after themselves, or helping themselves to supplies, but never replacing them.  Equipment gets damaged, and privacy is invaded.

But… eventually the “takers” develop a sour “you don’t understand how hard it is for me to comply with your unfair rules,” victim mentality.

The escalation begins…  …rules get bent when no one else is looking, proprietary documents and information get discussed with those not privy to them, half truths from the perpetrators “rule-bending” are spoken from them (ever so deceptively), and the cohesiveness of team and trust…  shatters.

When you are dealing with the hearts, lives, and privacy of others and can’t at the same time, respect those same things with those you work with or serve with, pushing boundaries and making passive aggressive comments eventually disqualify you for close, fruitful, and meaningful work.

The insecure person or the person who can’t handle basic protective rules will push back against leadership and protocols.

There comes a time when those who have provided great opportunity, (who have most likely invested resources and time and space), must break from the generous “giving out”, and allow the consequences of poor choices and disrespect from “the taker/victim” to catch up with the circumstances.

Character plays a big role in where you go in your life.  Honesty is considered a characteristic that employers and college interviewers look for in candidates.

➡️ When you are faithful and honest, it shows.
➡️ When you are sneaky and tell half truths, it also shows.

No one owes any user the opportunity to succeed at the expense of the giver.  Learn about what genuine boundaries look like where all parties understand the purpose and need for them.

Talk about them!  Respect them!  Or… soon you will find those who wished well for you must instead ask you to find another opportunity elsewhere.

Friend, “Never take advantage of the person who has done the most for you.”

“Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much, and whoever is dishonest with very little will also be dishonest with much,”   Luke 16:10 (NIV)


In His Shadow,
~ Mary Lindow ©

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