Disgruntled, Disconnections and Devious Partnerships. I heard these four words this morning as I asked God about some attacks that were being directed toward some of those in ministry whom I’m praying for.
Anybody who knows me will tell you that when I see something happening too, much I will seek God for an answer. Today He dealt with me concerning those who were once connected to a person, connecting with new leaders and forming an assassination alliance toward the person they were no longer associated with.
These angry, resentful persons, will join forces (many times with those they know are enemies of the person they have disconnected from) and speak evil against them, drawing their new connection into their web of destruction that they are forming against their former connection.
Many time, these devious partnerships are formed from the words of somebody trying to get back at somebody, or are angry for some reason at a person whom often times, they couldn’t control or manipulate.
As a leader, I have learned that people often times, when they leave a leader, it’s because they have either been offended by something, or they are rebellious and disobedient, or they were corrected or disciplined, or they became jealous, because somebody new came in.
When people come to me and the first thing they do is try to dishonor their former leader and attack their character or name, many times it’s because they don’t want you to connect in any way with that former leader, to keep you from finding out anything about them.
A person who has had multiple persons leading them, is a strong indication of instability in spiritual relationships.
I have seen so many leaders miss the opportunity of forming spiritual relationships with good people, because of a opinion that was formed behind words from a disgruntled disconnections.
There are seven things every leader should ask a person who has left a ministry or disconnected from another leader and wanting to connect to them:
- Who sent you.
- Why are you here.
- What do you want from me and this ministry.
- Why are you leaving your last ministry.
- Do your former leader know you’re gone.
- How can I contact them concerning you.
- What can you offer this ministry that you were incapable of doing at the ministry you left
I find most persons who have something to hide, usually by question six, no longer feel God is leading them to connect to me. Seeing how they answer these seven questions, often times will save you a lot of heartache in the long run.
One red flag is definitely when they start off degrading and dishonoring those whom they have left. You see, when you leave a ministry in good standing you, will never dishonor that leadership. You will always uphold the character and integrity of that leader because you realize that your departure from them was necessary for your spiritual growth and it was not because of misunderstandings.
Leaders and those they lead, have to learn how to separate without destroying.
Any good leader knows that each person sent to them has an assignment with that leader, some short term, some seasonal, some long term, but that the people belong to God and not them, and that God is sending them for training, teaching and releasing.
Recognizing this fact keeps the two parties from becoming disgruntled and offended when God moves them either into the hands of another leadership, or into their own ministry.
People, you can part ways from each other without it becoming ugly and nasty! Knowing how to let go smoothly is something that should definitely be taught in leadership and ministry classes.
Knowing how to release a person into their next assignment, will keep a lot of confusion and discord out of the Body of Christ. Mature leadership understands promotions, elevations and transitions and knows their limitations concerning their involvement in a person’s life.
They know they can only teach a person what they have been equipped to do and if that person needs somebody more mature, advance, or gifted in the calling they are going to walk into, recommend, or together with the person seek God as to who their next mentor should be.
When you as a leader can do this, then you have become God’s leader!
Letting go is easy when you know who you are in a person’s life!
~ Apostle Barbara R. Thomas
Apostle Barbara R. Thomas is founder of I Come to Heal Ministries, A Woman’s touch Ministry, The Next Dimension Global Outreach Ministries and Spoken Word School of Ministry and is on a mission, traveling the world, proclaiming the Gospel, for souls to be won to the Kingdom of God. She has life mandate to help bring others to their divine purpose.