Healing From Abusive Relationships


Has anybody every thought that when God said He was removing the demonic soul tie, that He was referring to you?

Sometimes when God sends a word, it’s for us and not the other person.

Too often we point the finger at another individual, when the fact of the matter is, God is talking directing to us.

Some persons are yet dealing with hidden issues that they want to hide and often present a one-sided case. when seeking help from people.  They present a scenario that says “I’m okay,” but those with whom I deal, are not.

I’m very observant spiritually when it comes to dealing people.  The discernment of the Holy Ghost within me always seeks out the truth of a matter, beyond the words that are presented.

People often come to me for advice and then get upset and sometimes almost want to fight when they are presenting their arguments concerning the failure of a relationship, and instead of me coming into agreement with them, I begin to reveal what God shows me are the issues they deal with.

An excellent counselor will always deal with you first, before they deal with who you say is the problem.  Even when it comes to domestic violence, while they are talking about their abuser, I ask them, “Why did you stay there with the person and accept the abuse?”

You have to see why people who say they hate certain behaviors, allow those behaviors to control their lives.

Why are they accepting these things, and what happened to give them the mindset that has them entrapped and bound them to a horrible situation that is destroying them?

You see, I’m a firm believer in this following statement, “There is never a cause without a effect and a effect with a cause.”

Something has developed within their emotions and mentally broken them down, so that they accept pain and misery.

This morning I’m praying for those who have surrendered to toxic emotions and unacceptable behavior toward them.  I’m praying for those who psychologically, have become enslaved to a person or situation that is emotionally and mentally destroying them, but yet remain faithfully connected to the pain and persecution.

I’m praying for their deliverance from the issues within them, that have entwined their soul and spirit to what is designed to kill them spiritually.

Often I deal with persons who are crying out for help, not to be free, but to learn how to cope with what they hate, but yet can’t be released of.

Getting them to a place to be able to see their value and worth is a tedious journey and it takes a person with patience, love and wisdom, to help them in their deliverance.

You see people, it is easy to cast the spirits out.  It’s the aftercare of dealing with the mindset that has been emotionally and mentally scarred, that will be the warfare, because until the mindset is changed and healed, they will continue to deal with the same situations, over and over again!

The road to your recovery doesn’t lead to the person who hurt you, but it always leads back to you.

When you understand that it was something that happen to you, that made you attached and become comfortable with unacceptable behavior, you won’t ever get your complete healing and deliverance.

The ungodly soul tie is within you!  What are you bound with today that you need to be free from?


~ Apostle Barbara R. Thomas

Apostle/Prophetess Barbara R. ThomasApostle Barbara R. Thomas is founder of I Come to Heal Ministries, A Woman’s touch Ministry, The Next Dimension Global Outreach Ministries and Spoken Word School of Ministry and is on a mission, travelling the world, proclaiming the Gospel, for souls to be won to the Kingdom of God. She has life mandate to help bring others to their divine purpose.

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Healing From Abusive Relationships — 1 Comment

  1. WOW! I have been waiting for God to confirm this word, Blaming others when we are at fault. thank you so much.
    I sent this to some one and praying she will open her eyes and see the truth, not them so much but herself.