You Have to Establish Boundaries!


One of the worst things any leader can do is become a hindrance to your process of excellence or maturity!

We don’t interfere with ABBA’s development of a person!  We have to sometimes sit back and allow you to go through some things to break your pride, stubbornness and rebellion and we are only allowed to pray for your strength and understanding of the process.

So many persons get upset with their leaders because they don’t have the ability to receive the fact that their leader can’t help them to escape some of the encounters of persecution and trials they are going through to bring their flesh under subjection and to renew their mindset.

Often people will accuse the leader of being heartless or unfeeling because they don’t move like they want them to when trouble or situations occur.

As leaders, are job is to teach you how to stand on your own and not to become dependent upon us as leaders to be your crutch or your bailout person.

I can tell you from experience, that people will start doing things recklessly because they feel like the leader will bail them out.

There are persons who expect a leader to do everything for them, from being a chauffeur to them and their family, to paying all their bills every month.  And when the leader puts their foot down to these kinds of tactics, those who only came to take advantage of the ministry will then turn on the person and try and destroy the ministry and leader’s name.

Hear me good leaders, don’t start out just taking on people responsibilities for them, but teach them how to go to work, start a business, be good stewards of their finances, accountable in their actions, and how to govern their household and family.

Teaching them priorities in dispensing their finances is a must, and being a example to them of how to use the power to get wealth that ABBA has given us, is very important.

We cannot allow people to become lazy and unproductive in their lives.  Yes people, there are times and circumstances that require a person to obtain temporary help, but it’s not for you to allow that person to become dependent upon you, that they don’t try to help themselves.

Yes you can help them, but don’t let your helping them become a crutch of dependency upon you.

The Word says that YAH will supply all their need according to His riches in glory by Christ Jesus.

We are to always know that He is our source of provision, but He will give us a strategy plan resource of information to obtain a provisional source that will sustain us and keep us from walking in poverty lack and debt!

People, a lot of our problems can be solved if we learn how to live within our financial bracket and not make bills beyond our financial sphere!

Overindulging, over spending, over doing, are not demonic attacks, it’s poor judgment, stewardship, and lack of training in how to govern our finances and household.

Remember the blessings of the LORD make the rich and adds no sorrow.

If it’s a burden, it’s not a blessing and if it’s a blessing, it’s not a burden.

ABBA won’t give you something and then have you depressed suicidal and doing unlawful acts to keep it.

If He tells you to step out and get something, then He will provide for it.

I notice in the Word, when people moved at His word, He blessed them their seed and household, but they moved and obeyed what He said precisely.

I know this is a little long, but I’m tired of seeing leaders stress out trying to help people who don’t help themselves, and people not doing what they need to do to better themselves.

Our job is to teach you and train you in every area of life, so that you can grow, increase, be successful, and productive.

We not trying to produce persons who don’t know how to provide for their own household.

We want you to be a productive outstanding person of wealth, in not only the Kingdom of God, but the world.

Now some will become upset with you, as you withdraw from them and allow them to learn from their mistakes and poor judgment, but don’t back down.

They have to learn that they can’t take their bill money and go splurge, then expect you to take care of their household and family.

If they can go on trips, go out to eat every night, travel to a different conference twice a month, they are not doing as bad as they say.

What they are doing is using their resources to have a good time and then expecting the ministry to take care of their personal responsibilities!

If the ministry is giving out more than they are receiving they will eventually failed go broke and lose everything.

Use wisdom and do mandatory classes on stewardship in your ministry.  Know this, that there is a time when ABBA is going to speak and tell that leader to withhold the resources from you to help you to mature and learn how to effectively run your household and govern your finances.

They not the devil they are being a good leader by teaching and training you in how to survive and be productive and successful!


~ Apostle Barbara R. Thomas

Apostle/Prophetess Barbara R. ThomasApostle Barbara R. Thomas is founder of I Come to Heal Ministries, A Woman’s touch Ministry, The Next Dimension Global Outreach Ministries and Spoken Word School of Ministry and is on a mission, travelling the world, proclaiming the Gospel, for souls to be won to the Kingdom of God. She has life mandate to help bring others to their divine purpose.

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