It’s a Holiday pep talk here folks!
Toxic people can be extremely draining and encounters with them leave you emotionally wiped out. Time with them is about taking care of THEIR business, which will leave you feeling frustrated and unfulfilled, if not angry.
Don’t allow yourself to become depleted as a result of giving and giving and getting nothing in return. At first, you may feel for them and their plight but once you observe that every interaction is negatively “buzzed” you may want to limit your contact with them. Your time and energy and peace are to be protected for your own life. Don’t be overly willing to give those treasures away!
Don’t repay evil with evil or insult with insult. Act in the opposite spirit! Repay evil with blessing, because you were called to do this so that you may inherit a blessing.
For, whoever would love life and see good days must keep their tongue from evil and their lips from deceitful speech. They must turn away from evil and do good; they must seek peace and pursue it, (1 Peter 3:9).
And friends, beware especially of the narcissistic toxic person! Their mode of operation includes gaining total control of a situation, and that means of YOU too. They will demand your undivided attention and attempt to convince you that you need to join their SUPERIOR SMARTIES camp.
YOU need to conform to their way of thinking, because although they haven’t lived your life, they know better than you about how to run it!
They’re right; you’re wrong. And, you simply need to do what they say! This kind of toxic person will think nothing of talking down to you and will often imply through “bored” body language or dismissive behavior that you are an absolute misinformed dope or are “too sensitive”, thus much less intelligent than their own grand selves.
Toxic people have narcissistic tendencies. They have a difficult time focusing on things that don’t directly affect them, so instead they circle the wagons of conversation around their thoughts, feelings, opinions and actions. They listen to others halfheartedly, with robotic nods and unenthusiastic mumbling replies rather than genuinely trying to engage in a two-way conversation.
Don’t let the “kill joys” in life drain you of the delight in enjoying the soft and simple pleasures of the whirlwind Holiday and Christmas season.
Spend your emotional capital wisely and keep healthy boundaries well intact!
“Whoever is patient and slow to anger shows great understanding, but whoever has a quick temper magnifies their foolishness,” Proverbs 14:29.
In His Shadow,
~ Mary Lindow ©
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Mary Lindow has a passion for encouraging others – all generations, careers or vocations to live expressing excellence through personal integrity, healthy accountability, and wise management of talents and skills. She’s a sought after keynote, inspirational, humorous speaker and teacher across the U.S.A and internationally in Ministers & Spiritual leaders Conferences, and training seminars for various organizations.